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She was sexually assaulted within months of coming out. She isn't alone.

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Sarah McBride wasn’t sure if she could do it. She wasn’t even sure she should. She watched that Sunday in October as her Twitter and Facebook feeds filled with stories from survivor after survivor — accounts that would eventually stir the conscience of a nation that had long refused to reckon with its culture of sexual violence. After a restless night contemplating whether she was strong enough to lift the weight of silence, she gathered her courage and tweeted those devastating words: “Me Too.”

Until that moment, McBride, national press secretary for the Human Rights Campaign and the first transgender American to address a major party convention, had only disclosed her sexual assault to a few people. She said she stayed silent for years because she feared she wouldn’t be believed.

“There’s this baseline level of disbelief that survivors of sexual assault writ large face,” she said. “And then there’s this extra unique barrier that transgender people face around this notion that … we are somehow so undesirable that people wouldn’t sexually assault us, which is a fundamental misunderstanding of both who transgender people are and how sexual assault works.”

#MeToo: I’m so open about every other part of my life except one. I can count on one hand the number of people I’ve confided… (1/17)

— Sarah McBride (@SarahEMcBride) October 16, 2017

While the perception of the LGBTQ community is that of increasing visibility and acceptance, especially during Pride month, it is a population that continues to face discrimination that makes it more vulnerable to sexual violence.

The rates are so much higher

A 2015 survey by the National Center for Transgender Equality found nearly half of respondents were sexually assaulted at some point in their lifetime and one in 10 was sexually assaulted in the past year. Overall, people who identify as LGBTQ are at greater risk of sexual violence, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention:

• 44% of lesbians and 61% of bisexual women experience rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner, compared with 35% of heterosexual women.

• 37% of bisexual men experience rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner, compared with 29% of heterosexual men.

• 40% of gay men and 47% of bisexual men have experienced sexual violence other than rape, compared to 21% of heterosexual men.

Biggest Me Too headlines followed a formula

While McBride found Me Too personally empowering, she said other members of the LGBTQ community felt their experiences weren’t reflected in the conversation. Some gay voices helped launch the movement — Anthony Rapp led the charge against Kevin Spacey’s alleged sexual misconduct — but Me Too headlines were largely dominated by the stories of white, wealthy, straight, cis women.

There was a feeling when Me Too exploded, McBride said, that the people “most at risk of experiencing sexual assault and sexual violence” weren’t as included as they should have been. The stories given most attention followed a formula: A prominent female survivor and a powerful male perpetrator. Many felt these stories were elevated at the expense of poor survivors, survivors of color, disabled survivors and non-binary or queer survivors — people whose identities put them at greater risk for sexual violence.

#METOO:Sexual violence impacts LGBTQ folks, too

Really disappointed at the lack of LGBTQ+ inclusion in #metoo . It’s not just men and women 👌 check your language

— Nisha (@YogicAmnesiac) October 18, 2017

“Queer people … around the world who are also chiming in — we have to pay attention to them, too,” Me Too founder Tarana Burke, who started the campaign more than a decade ago to raise awareness about sexual violence among women of color, told USA TODAY in October.

Why? Vulnerability

Experts say reasons for the disproportionately higher rates of sexual violence are complex. What’s clear is that discrimination makes LGBTQ people inherently more vulnerable, said Kristen Houser, chief public affairs officer at the National Sexual Violence Resource Center.

“Bias and discrimination end up equaling secrecy and alienation, and when you don’t have support systems … that often creates risk factors that people who inflict harm on others are seeking out,” Houser said.

A queer teen who is shunned by his family and community is a more likely target for a sexual predator. A transgender person struggling to find employment is more likely to be homeless, which increases the risk of sexual victimization.

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Riley Dawson (from left), Averi Holt, Abbey Wagner and Sam Legendre-Davis share their coming out stories. Beatriz Alvarado/Caller-Times

The CDC’s risk factors for sexual violence also tie in to risks for the LGBTQ population:

• Alcohol and drug use (sexual minorities have higher rates of substance misuse and substance use disorders than heterosexuals, according to the National Institute on Drug Abuse)

• Homelessness (in a survey of agencies helping homeless youth, 40% of the youth identified as LGBT, according to the Williams Institute at UCLA)

• Poverty (rates of poverty are higher among lesbian, gay and bi people, and nearly a third of transgender people live in poverty, twice the national rate)

• Lack of employment opportunities (in many states, anti-LGBT laws in enable legal discrimination in hiring and in the workplace)

Myths about LGBTQ people are also important to understanding the disproportionate rates of violence, Houser said. For example, 46% of bisexual women have been raped, compared to 17% of heterosexual women and 13% of lesbians, according the CDC.

“Bisexuality is seen as a curiosity, and the way it is oftentimes presented, especially in pornographic connotations, is constantly willing, like you don’t say no to anyone,” Houser said. “I think you end up … running the risk of men in particular making assumptions about not being turned down and feeling entitled. … If we’re going to fetishize sexual assault against bisexual people or trans people and turn it into entertainment, we’re going to have a hard time taking it seriously.”

Sexual violence against LGBTQ people can also be a dimension of hate.

“If you have a person who is expressing disdain or wanting to dehumanize another person for having a different … identity other than being cisgendered or straight, sexual assault can be used as a punishment,” Houser said.

“Corrective rape,” when a straight person rapes an LGBTQ person in an attempt to punish them or change their sexual orientation, is an example of hate-motivated sexual violence.

“It’s the most personal violation you can perpetuate against somebody without murdering them,” Houser said.

Getting help gets complicated

Discrimination also means LGBTQ survivors are less likely to seek help from police, hospitals and rape crisis centers. Some worry about being “outed,” and many worry about being discriminated against further. In 2016, 39% of LGBT survivors interacted with law enforcement following an incident of intimate partner violence, according to the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs. Seven percent said the police were hostile and 12% said that the police were indifferent in their interactions.

McBride, who says she was sexually assaulted during her junior year of college in Washington, D.C., six months after coming out as transgender, didn’t report her assault to police and shared the incident with very few people. She said she remained silent not only because she worried people wouldn’t believe her, but also because initially she wasn’t sure what she believed herself. McBride said she had internalized transphobic messages about her self-worth, at one point thinking, “You’re lucky he’s even interested in you.” She also worried speaking out could harm the LGBTQ community at large, by reinforcing myths that LGBTQ people are “overly sexual.”

    To combat sexual assault, states must have comprehensive anti-discrimination protections for LGBTQ people, McBride said.

    “We need to know that we are safe and protected from discrimination in accessing the kind of services, care and support that every survivor of sexual assault deserves,” she said.

    Sexual violence is a too common experience, especially for women. But not every element of it is universal. There is much that LGBTQ survivors of sexual assault share in common with straight, cis survivors. And there is much they do not.

    “[We need to be] taking seriously the entire spectrum of abusive and inappropriate behavior, which is one of the benefits of the Me Too movement,” Houser said. “We … can be inclusive for everybody. It’s not just how do you define this act. It’s really about what kind of behavior do we want to tolerate around us. It’s bad behavior. No matter who the victim is. It hurts all of us.”

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    Oregon | Belinda Carroll As a stand-up comic, Belinda Carroll has befriended a lot of veterans of her craft over the years. And many share a similar story. They look into headlining a venue and hear a familiar refrain: There’s no way a gay person will sell out an entire club.“I think that stuck with me,” said Carroll, 42, an LGBTQ activist for decades. So last year, she did something about it: The Portland Queer Comedy Festival, that aims to celebrate queer comedy while bringing it into the mainstream. “Within my act, I talk a lot about girlfriends, ex-girlfriends, dating and sex,” Carroll said. “But my experiences are universal. In essence: Everybody is having trouble on Tinder.”Josh Hafner/USA TODAY  Handout
    Pennsylvania | Brian SimsAs the son of two retired

    Pennsylvania | Brian SimsAs the son of two retired Army lieutenant colonels and surrounded by powerful women, Democratic state Rep. Brian Sims thought he was going to become a feminist lawyer, focusing on gender inequality. But when he came out in college, his plan changed, and he decided to practice general civil rights law. Eventually, he decided to run for office himself. Once in office, Sims, the first openly gay lawmaker in Pennsylvania’s history, was prevented from speaking about marriage equality on the house floor by a GOP state representative who said Sim’s comments were “open rebellion against God’s law.” Although a challenging moment for Sims, he said it brought more exposure to why the LGBTQ community needs increased political representation.Mabinty Quarshie/USA TODAY  Handout
    Rhode Island | Jesus HolguinJesus Holguin first told

    Rhode Island | Jesus HolguinJesus Holguin first told his mother he was gay after she was arrested. The glass separating them in the prison visitation room blocked her from hugging him. He was 16 years old, and she was later deported.“She was yearning to touch me and give me a hug, but that just let me know that it was all good,” he said. “The biggest fear in her was just the way the world treats folks.”Holguin, now 25, runs an after-school club focused on the intersection of queer identity and environmentalism. “It is a holistic safe space — where you’re thinking about a person’s identity and their environment, recognizing that our environment has the biggest impact on our development,” he said.Shelby Fleig/USA TODAY  Handout
    South Carolina | Jeff March During his six years as

    South Carolina | Jeff MarchDuring his six years as president, Jeff March has been responsible for expanding South Carolina’s yearly Pride Festival into one of the nation’s most vibrant celebrations. Not known for its progressive politics, March said the red state has taken steps toward embracing the LGBTQ community in recent years. “We were awarded marriage equality about a year before it became the law of the land,” March said. “I’m proud of little old South Carolina for that.”Hannah Wiley/USA TODAY  Handout
    South Dakota | Quinn KathnerAs Quinn Kathner playfully

    South Dakota | Quinn KathnerAs Quinn Kathner playfully puts it, her coming out at age 29 made her “really late to the party.” But she’s grateful she finally arrived.”It doesn’t matter whether you come out at 8, 18, 78, 38, 98,” she said. “Your story is yours, and it’s one to be celebrated.”Kathner, who is now 35 and identifies as a lesbian, is the marketing coordinator and forthcoming president for Sioux Falls Pride. She said it’s especially important for “rural individuals in the LGBT community to know they have a place to come and to be accepted.”Alia Dastagir/USA TODAY  Handout
    Tennessee | Robin PattyRobin Patty, 56, went out in

    Tennessee | Robin PattyRobin Patty, 56, went out in public dressed as a woman for the first time in 2009. It was her first true surge of pride. But pride for Patty extends beyond how she identifies. For her, pride means service to her country and community.A former Green Beret, Patty was injured when her parachute snagged on a tree limb during a training jump in 1992. Lower limb paralysis left her in a wheelchair.Living in Murfreesboro, she still serves as a HAM radio operator and a communication leader for the Tennessee Emergency Management Agency.“It’s a real sense of satisfaction and service,” she said. And it’s something she can do as the person she has always known herself to be.Jessica Bliss/The Tennessean  George Walker IV/Tennessean.com
    Texas | Lou Weaver “I’ve always known that I was

    Texas | Lou Weaver “I’ve always known that I was different,” says Lou Weaver, a proud, queer transgender man living in Houston. But the journey to coming out as transgender wasn’t easy. Weaver first came out as a lesbian in 1989 — before the online era. Weaver didn’t have the words for what being transgender was, nor what the possibilities could be for him. Today, Weaver trains local elected officials, law enforcement and health care workers on issues affecting the transgender community. “I speak to anybody and everybody about what it means to be trans in Texas,” he said.Mabinty Quarshie/USA TODAY  Handout
    Utah | Kelleen PotterKelleen Potter is the mayor of

    Utah | Kelleen PotterKelleen Potter is the mayor of Heber, a small, conservative city in Utah. For years, her Mormon family fit a predictable picture. That changed, she said, when her 14-year-old son Daniel told her he was gay.Being gay isn’t accepted in the Mormon church, and Potter struggled to find a nurturing environment for her son as he moved between schools. Then, her middle child began struggling with gender dysphoria. Her child, who Potter then considered her son, came out as transgender. Potter helped her daughter, who now goes by Faye, get the hormones she needs to transition and moved her into a charter school, where she feels more accepted.“My only job is to let my children know that I love them unconditionally,” she said.Ashley May/USA TODAY  Handout
    Vermont | Dana KaplanDana Kaplan describes the work

    Vermont | Dana KaplanDana Kaplan describes the work of Outright Vermont as both radical and simple: Creating spaces to celebrate LGBTQ youth while affirming their identities.Also radical and simple: Pulling a fire truck up a city street using your bare hands.Such a feat is accomplished at the annual Fire Truck Pull fundraiser benefiting Outright, the organization guiding LGBTQ youth in Vermont for nearly 30 years.The fire truck pull, where teams pull a truck up a Burlington street, is an apt metaphor for Outright’s work: “Doing something that’s hard at first, but once you get momentum going, you’re able to see change,” Kaplan said.Sean Rossman/USA TODAY  James Buck/Outright Vermont
    Virginia | Bruce Hightower For Bruce Hightower, Pride

    Virginia | Bruce HightowerFor Bruce Hightower, Pride is a time for the LGBTQ community to come together in solidarity and recharge to face the challenges ahead. As president of Arlington Gay and Lesbian Alliance, he knows those challenges all too well.”We have taken so many strides since we’ve federally recognized same-sex marriages, but it feels like we’ve stepped behind 10 years on some issues,” he said. Hightower points to issues impacting the transgender community, like President Trump’s proposal to ban most trans troops from serving.He said his organization is also searching for ways to better support LGBTQ people who find themselves in assisted living or elder care.Mary Bowerman/USA TODAY  Handout
    Washington | Danny Cords Danny Cords was there in

    Washington | Danny CordsDanny Cords was there in March when Washington’s governor signed into law a ban on gay conversion therapy. Cords calls himself a conversion therapy survivor, and he told his story in committee hearings that led to the law, which outlaws licensed therapists from using such practices on minors, being passed.“To finally come out in the public square and say, ‘This is wrong, my government now acknowledges that locally,’ the feeling is indescribable,” said Cords, 31, of Olympia. He said he can recall being told to snap a rubber band on his wrist when he felt drawn to sing a show tune. Cords turned his trauma into empowerment. “Every piece of my life can help me become a better professional, better person, better citizen,” he said. “That’s pride.”Josh Hafner/USA TODAY  Handout
    District of Columbia | Ryan Duncan Since moving to

    District of Columbia | Ryan DuncanSince moving to D.C., Ryan Duncan says the “melting pot” of cultures in the city allows him to be more open with his gay identity, but being gay isn’t always at the forefront of his identity.“The sense of pride that I get is just to be able to live my life as a normal human today and to feel comfortable in all my settings,” he said. “I think that’s the great thing about where our society is moving.”For Duncan, Pride Month is bigger than just the LGBTQ community. “It’s a time for everyone to come together and be prideful about who they are and be accepting of other peoples.”Ryan Miller/USA TODAY  Handout
    West Virginia | Gina Mamone and Kayleigh Phillips

    West Virginia | Gina Mamone and Kayleigh Phillips Gina Mamone and Kayleigh Phillips wanted to honor their late friend Bryn Kelly by starting an online initiative that shares the often-eccentric aspects of life as a queer person in Appalachia. So began The Queer Appalachia Project, which creates artistic space for the intersection of the queer experience in coal country.“We’re doing something that’s never been done before with Appalachian media,” Mamone said. Queer Appalachia’s leaders leverage social media as a platform to connect queer voices in the region. The initiative shares and celebrates cultural stories on what it means to be queer in a struggling, deeply conservative pocket of America, where according to Phillips, “your identities clash a little.”Hannah Wiley/USA TODAY  Handout
    Wisconsin | Brad and Nick Schlaikowski A shared interest

    Wisconsin | Brad and Nick SchlaikowskiA shared interest in charity fundraising first connected Brad and Nick Schlaikowski. Six years later, they’ve married, served as foster parents and co-founded Courage MKE, a non-profit for homeless LGBTQ youth in Milwaukee.Pride Month is especially meaningful to them, Nick said, recalling his first pride festival shortly after coming out at age 15.“It was the first time I really felt home,” Nick said. “I walk through the gates now and I still feel the same way. We need to raise our voices and show our pride and show who we are.”Shelby Fleig/USA TODAY  Handout
    Wyoming | Roy Brown Roy Brown is the first openly

    Wyoming | Roy BrownRoy Brown is the first openly gay chairman of the Northern Arapaho Tribe. Growing up, Brown struggled with being a tribe member and a gay man. After coming out at age 19, pride has represented a “sense of freedom.” Brown also identifies as queer and two spirit. For Native Americans, the term two spirit honors people in historic tribes that were LGBTQ, Brown said. “Those individuals were revered and respected and thought to have a better balance about how they viewed the world,” Brown said.Ryan Miller/USA TODAY  Handout

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